Marilyn Manson has been accused of domestic abuse last week by ex-girlfriend Evan Rachel Wood through a statement on her Instagram page. Wood says the musician “Brainwashed and Manipulated” her into submission during their three year relationship.
Wood has gone on to publicly post anonymous messages she has received from other women through Instagram who claim to have also been abused by Manson. Late exes of the singer who have also stepped forward with abuse allegations include Ashley Walters, Manson’s ex personal assistant and model Sarah Mcneilly among many others.
However, a declaration made by Manson’s ex wife and burlesque legend Dita Von Teese has been issued regarding their seven year relationship, opposing Wood’s statements. She said; “Please know that the details made public do not match my personal experience during our 7 year marriage as a couple. Had they, I would not have married him in December 2005.” She goes on to state that the marriage ended due to “infidelity and drug abuse.”
So, is Teese telling the truth, or is Wood? Whilst some fans have denounced their loyalty to the ‘Beautiful People’ singer, others have seen Teese’s statement as a green light to defend Manson.
To instantly dismiss Wood’s abuse claims because of one contradictory statement is exactly why so many women don't come forward to speak out against their abusers- through fear of not being believed. Wood has bravely come forward to recount her experiences with Manson to prevent any other women from being affected by the singer.
However- is Teese in the wrong? Again, no. Although she had the longest relationship with Manson, it is not an explicit rule that a domestic offender will abuse every partner they are with. Just because Teese did not have the experience than Wood did, does not mean that her story is any less viable or untrue. Do I think that her statement was to spite Wood and her campaign against Manson? Again- absolutely, categorically not. I believe she was likely encouraged to speak out due to their high profile relationship, and it doesn't make her experience any less valid just because it doesn't align with other women's stories.
Instead of victim blaming, let's start listening to those who are brave enough to speak up.
If you are currently experiencing domestic abuse, there are hotlines available to you; nationaldahelpline.org.uk, womensaid.org.uk and safelives.org.uk.
Blows my mind how common victim-blaming is and it needs to be challenged! Great article